• Preparing for parenthood: My recommendations

    Preparing for parenthood, at a high level, goes a bit like this; realise how much there is to learn and do, panic, do some research on the internet, buy loads of parenting books, read a load of scaremongering and science, panic some more, then find another parent to-be and realise you’re in the same boat and your panic settles somewhat. But really it’s still there bubbling under the surface. It’s kind of how this blog came about, I wanted to reduce the panic moments by sharing the good and the bad, the stress-worthy and non stress-worthy moments of preparing to be a parent. Now we’re on the “other side” of…

  • Big Clock

    When is the right time?

    Talk of babies is in the air, and as our social circle gets older, the talk of marriage and building a family is becoming a more popular topic of conversation, and the million dollar question, ‘when is the right time to have a baby?’ I’ve learnt that there is no single response to that, it all comes down to circumstance, but in my experience the initial answer is never. A baby entering your life rocks your world from the moment you find out they exist, and in that sense you are never really ready. But you can be prepared. As a society everything is now delayed a bit. The majority of us…

  • The Birth Plan

    Up until this point I have been playing catch up on the blog with everything that has happened so far. It’s given me a chance to reflect on everything we have been through together and also made me realise I’ve actually paid attention during these 38 weeks! We’re now at the stage where everything is becoming very real, at this very moment my fiance is lying behind me and inhaling sharply at the twinges going on in and around her belly, each of which is causing me to have a bit of an internal panic attack. You see on the surface I’m calm and ready to go to the hospital,…

  • Hospital Bag (For Her)

    As we moved into the later stages of pregnancy, the hospital bag naturally made its way into our conversations. If all goes the way I think it will, the more prepared we are in the event of her waters breaking, the better! In my head I have the military scenario of ‘GO, GO, GO!’, so the ability to run in and grab the bag and get to the hospital is important. We all know by this stage that the process of labour can take FOREVER but at least we can be ready when it does happen. Throughout the antenatal classes it was made apparent to us that you really can…

  • Antenatal Classes

    The whole reason for this blog was my realisation that my biggest learning about pregnancy and having a child came from listening to peoples experiences, reading about parenting moments on blogs and across the internet and realising that contributing to this world of joyful, emotional and stressful moments is really important. I think it is anyway. Despite how much I’ve learnt, to give both myself and my fiance a level of confidence going into parenthood, we figured it made sense to attend antenatal classes. Now, when you think of antenatal classes, sorry, IF you think of antenatal classes, what do you think of? Mum’s on their backs with fathers behind,…

  • 4D Or Not 4D?

    It was surprising to me to find out that you only have 2 scans during a straightforward pregnancy. One at 12 weeks and one at 20 weeks. That’s only 2 opportunities for you and your partner to see your baby, so as usual they are moments to make the most of. Soak in all of that screen time, watch that heartbeat, laugh at the wriggles and leave smiling like a Chesire cat. In the case that there are questions raised as to the development of your baby, then further scans may be required. My partner had low lying placenta, something that is quite common, it has to be monitored due to…

  • 20 Week Scan

    The 20 week scan is not only another opportunity to see your baby again, but if decided, the chance to find out whether you’re having a girl or a boy. Most importantly the babies heart will be checked and kidney development monitored. For a lot of people, keeping the gender a mystery adds to the excitement of the whole process, leaving it to delivery day for everyone to find out. This is completely personal preference and everyone seems to have an opinion on anything today. So whatever you choose to do. Good for you! Thankfully we were of the same view that we should find out, we agreed it made…

  • Start Spreading The News

    Depending on what you’ve decided to do, now is the moment to shout it from the rooftops! Or if you have a fiancé like mine, plot the most effective and fancy way of informing the world you have a baby on the way instead of just getting your mates together at the pub and dropping it into the conversation. It’s a very personal matter and sending a text to the group doesn’t quite cut it. It was important for us to do this in a nice way for our immediate family and close friends. So we got some fancy boxes, put a baby grow wrapped in tissue paper inside and…

  • 12 Week Scan

    Are you nervous? Of course you are. Up until this point you’ve relied on the lines of a stick to tell you that your lives are about to change in a major way. As most couples do, the 12 week scan not only acts as confirmation that sh*t got real, but you can start spreading the great news that 2 is about to become 3 (or 4 or 5 … Good luck!). You’ve met with your midwife, made your introductions and gone through all the questions to gauge when your baby is likely to join you, yet even with a professional telling you this is real, it’s hard to believe…

  • Meeting The Midwife

    Once the dust has settled and both your brains have been able to take in the news. There are some matters to attend to, like booking in to meet your mid wife. In this appointment you will run through your partners health, your own health, family history, any diseases, bloods will be taken and an estimated due date will be given. You will also have the next months of your pregnancy explained including key dates for scans and possible jabs that you may need to take. Information overload…put notes in your phone. In the time between your meeting with the midwife and the 12 week scan you are likely to…